I have never believed in love at first sight. Originally I chalked that up to a lack of personal experience in my own life that would in any way support its existence. Then I realized that I still have complete faith that the next Star Wars movie is going to be amazing and will be just as good as the originals that I first saw when I was five and explosions and monsters counted for a lot more than acting or dialogue.
See, the only possible way that love at first sight can exist is between two extremely attractive and/or famously wealthy people. The idea of love at first sight is based completely on purely physical attraction. Well, consequently you’re not gonna fall in love the first time you see an even relatively good looking person. Love could be quite possible, but it will be a result of further good chemistry and not just looks.
Furthermore, if a normal looking person sees an incredibly attractive person and feels the emotion of love, that’s simply scoping out hot people. The chances of that feeling being returned are negligible.
Me: Aww man, look at that girl! She’s absurdly good looking in every way! With the right value system she could be the woman that I marry!
Absurdly Good Looking In Every Way Girl: Hmm, that guys too short.. That guy has too much facial hair. Oh, wow, that tall guy with glasses is giving off an aura of social awkwardness that is almost overpowering!
Me: Oh my gosh! That’s Katie Holmes! God Bless Dawson’s Creek for filming on Duke’s campus! By golly on top of being incredibly beautiful she’s tall! Regardless of her value system I want to live the rest of my life with her.
Katie Holmes: La la la. I hope the caterers brought scalloped potatoes to the shoot today. La la la.
So does it bothers me that love at first sight is such a prominent theme in literature, music, and film? No, not at all. I’d rather read about, listen about, and watch incredibly attractive people. Cuz hey, they’re incredibly attractive.
And I still think that if Katie Holmes would just get to know me a little bit she would find me absolutely delightful.
Delightfully socially awkward.